Tag: connections

Wants Guides — Wanting Help Wanted

Happy Easter Monday 😀

Where I live, Easter Monday is a public holiday, so there is almost no opportunity to be busy being a consumer — and so that leaves me a little more time to ponder.

Well, I have been pondering a lot lately — and in particular about expectations (see “Exploring Expectations” [ https://socio.business.blog/2022/04/17/exploring-expectations ] ). My line of thinking about expectations is strongly influenced by a book I read a while back (see “The problem is that the pervasiveness of technology and mass marketing is screwing up a lot of people’s expectations for themselves: the inundation of the exceptional makes people feel worse about themselves, makes them feel that they need to be more extreme, more radical, and more self assured to get noticed or even matter” [ https://fuckwith.news.blog/2021/09/10/the-problem-is-that-the-pervasiveness-of-technology-and-mass-marketing-is-screwing-up-a-lot-of-peoples-expectations-for-themselves-the-inundation-of-the-exceptional-makes-people-feel-worse-a ] ) … and here is a quote from the very first chapter (aka the introduction):

We have so much fucking stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a fuck about anymore.

Mark Manson, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”

In my critique of Mark Manson’s book, I point out that Mark is not very adamant about discussing wants in relationships between people. His primary focus is on individual wants as individual consumers. I, on the other hand, view pretty much all business activity as relationships among participants (see also “I look at everything through the lens of relationships — the technology, the strategies, the actual implementation, development of culture” [ https://relationships.code.blog/2022/01/06/i-look-at-everything-through-the-lens-of-relationships-the-technology-the-strategies-the-actual-implementation-development-of-culture ] ). Here I see an opportuntiy for anyone who seeks to satisfy wants — whether their own wants or others’ wants.

Over the past several years of covering others’ expressions of wants, I have seen many perspectives. In many cases, I have seen opportunities for people to help each other out. Yet nearly no one who is connected via the wants community has actually stepped up to the plate and taken a shot at making that kind of connection to other members of our community — at least not in a manner which is obvious to me.

I think the time is now ripe for taking that next step. Over the next weeks and months, I will be reaching out to members who are open to increasing their participation and engagement in order to provide more help and support — sort of greasing the wheels a little to make wants a more well-oiled machine for establishing, expanding and promoting more and more connections to happen.

Wants could grow as more and more people become more and more engaged, simply if and when we pay more attention to each other. Here we need to be very careful about what we wish for, because growth for its own sake is not always a fruitful endeavor. We need to balance investments of time and effort with the rewards we reap from our engagements. Perhaps no money needs to be invested at all. Perhaps the results cannot even be measured in monetary terms. One thing I am quite sure of, though: simplicity and ease of use will be key — so the technology requirements are along the lines of quick and … simple and easy!

At this moment, this is still in a rather preliminary planning stage — but some time soon, don’t be too surprised if you get a friendly tap on the shoulder from me! 😀

We all Scream for Ice Cream

As I indicated on Friday, I intend to write several posts over the coming weeks about the direction I am hoping to continue going to move Wants Blog forward.

In case you have never read the homepage, I strongly encourage you to take a look (it’s at most a 1-pager). I wrote this when I started the blog, and I feel it rings as true today as when I first rolled up my sleeves to write it.

The connection to last Friday’s post is this: wants may be easy enough to pronounce — they seem to roll off the tongue as easily and smoothly as swallowing sweet melted butter — but they are usually quite complex in practice. The phrase “it’s complicated” ought to spring to mind … even though not much schooling is needed for even the smallest of children to express what’s wanted (at times even with a “dead or alive” sense of urgency).

Yet as I tried to point out on Friday, we need not pretend (as Bob Dylan did in his “Talkin’ World War III Blues”) that we are all separated — we aren’t (as I indeed attempted to hammer home on the, er, homepage).

So I hope to first of all raise everyone’s sensitivity to a level at which we all realize the need to replace any simplistic views of individual, egotistical wants with a much more sophisticated model of a more socialized sense of collaborative wants — not merely because I personally feel that communal goal setting is the right thing to do, but rather because any matter-of-fact, evidence-based belly-button gazing exercise — whether super-simple or extremely complex — will easily show that there is no other world for us to live in than this “one world” we have to share with each other. We need to accept that one world is enough for all of us — because regardless of the stellar marketing pitches of the most advanced Silicon Valley celebrities another world is not (and probably never ever will be) “coming soon”.

I created documents that taught me a lot about the behind-the-scenes aspects of the field I want to work in and are also functioning documents with a clear purpose and audience and genre

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I learned about different audiences I will be writing to such as coworkers and vendors and clients. I learned about different types of documents I will be drafting such as emails and new hire paperwork and employee handbooks. I’ve thought a lot about my purpose for writing. In HR I’ve learned that you often aren’t simply writing to communicate information but also obtain information from your audience. An engagement letter from a law firm is not simply for the purpose of expressing your terms to represent a client, you’re also seeking their approval and acceptance of the deal, you need the audience to sign and return the document. An employee handbook isn’t just a book of rules and procedures for employees to follow, it’s also a place to express expectations for the employees and the organization and also a place to let marginalized employees know they are protected and safe at your organization.

https://richellewoodeportfolio.wordpress.com/2021/04/25/final-reflections

Under normal circumstances, I make a point of getting what I want

Keywords: challenges , gratitude , growth

But these aren’t NORMAL circumstances, and many of the things I want right now … in my work, during this season, with others … I simply CANNOT have … I feel powerless … and in that powerlessness, there is sorrow … and heartache … and sadness …

https://ourlifewelllivedleannehintz.com/2020/12/10/i-cant-fix-this

Some things or people have no connection with us but due to getting used to it, we consider those things or people as part of our life and we do not want to lose that comfort

Keywords: blogging , life , self improvement , thought , writing

This means life is not easy or difficult, only we make it easy or difficult according to our comfort. And we will not be able to understand the true meaning of life until we go beyond our comfort zone.

https://thebookshelfmuse.in/2020/12/06/im-here