I want more … “kicking the tires” (experimentation)

Today I want to introduce some concepts I have been playing around with in my hope and aim to increase the amount and levels of engagement at Wants Blog. I have come up with two tricks or gimmicks or more generally procedures to fool entice tease incentivise anyone to engage more with this project.

First, I think it is quite possible to improve various aspects of this site. I want to set up something like a “suggestion box” for this purpose. I see this as a willingness to meet unmet wants and needs of anyone who wishes to interact with this site in any way. I am a little bit inspired by the “Friends’ Monthy Meeting” structure, so I will analagously refer to these as “Monthly Meeting” threads — the first one is here, and is open to any / all comments — without anything being “off topic”.

Second, I wish to encourage more people to take the leap and sign up for a membership at this site. As a member, you will be able to create your own posts. As an additional incentive, I intend to commit to supporting anyone who achieves a full three months of active membership in their continuing projects, regardless of whether they remain members beyond that time. Therefore, anyone who signs up anytime during this month (October 2021) can expect to receive my support for their own projects starting February 2022. In order to qualify as an “active” member, all the member has to do is to make (at least) one single acceptable post — and of course anything that is illegal in any way is unacceptable, but what qualifies as acceptable beyond that is up to the discretion of the site management (currently: moi).

I don’t know whether these ideas are good or not. Perhaps changing nothing at all would be a better idea. So I just see this as an experiment — and now it’s time to simply sit back and see what happens. 🙂

Wanting Experiences Wanted

In a few weeks, Wants Blog will be able to celebrate its first anniversary, and although I have not set any clear goals for this site yet (in the realm of success and / or evidence-based statistics types of results), I do feel both good and confident enough to call the first year a satisfactory start, at least enough so that I am willing to continue with this project for the moment, for the foreseeable future, hopefully for many years to come … and I intend to make some more announcements in the coming days, or at least in celebration of the first anniversary itself (in about 3 or 4 days) — so stay tuned! 😀

Today I would like to change the pace a little and do something of a more reflective, theoretical post.

But there is no need to miss out on quoting some intelligence from the web (or, in this case, a book published by a blogger):

Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience.

https://markmanson.net/books/subtle-art

Mark is prone to making bold statements, and this a beautiful example. I by and large agree, but in my humble opinion, I feel it’s necessary for me to add some caveats.

First of all, I strongly agree — insofar as my own interpretation of “wanting” is similar to Mark’s in that to want is (AFAIK) a germanic verb lamenting an ill state of affairs — it is “needy” (cf. “To Want“).

Lest you think I intend to move on to the rest of the sentence, I myself want to focus more on this one word. Even more than that: I intend to go off on a tangent to an experience I had several decades ago, as a graduate student of linguistics. It was in a class very focused on some of Chomsky’s theories — probably named something like “syntax”. I think the particular topic of discussion had something to do with a theoretical construct like “subcategorization frames”, and we were discussing examples of sentences like “Jack rolled down the hill” vs. “Jack rolled the ball down the hill”. I argued that I felt as if the sentence which exluded “the ball” had an implicit default scenario, in which “Jack” would simply be duplicated — as if to say: “Jack rolled Jack down the hill”. The professor and pretty much the entire class immediately put my supposition into the realm of lunacy, thereby completely disregarding it as an unthinkable thought (never mind that I am actually a native speaker of English 😛 ).

In a similar vein, I wish to now suggest that I feel it is perhaps possible to reach a frame of mind — sound mind, mind you — which may call Mark’s statement above into question, maybe even undermine it so much that it would seem to invalidate its bold and eloquent nature completely.

For this amazing feat, let me ask you to consider that the default case of statements along the lines of “I want something” may actually be “I want something for myself” … and that this default case is not necessarily always present. On the contrary, it is possible to imagine a scenario in which someone who wants something actually wants something for someone else. My hunch is that Mark would argue this point as an invalid case, insofar as we cannot truly want something for other people, those other people must want things by themselves. I think I can acknowledge that as a valid argument, but I also feel that even though to say something like “everyone must heal themselves” may sound valid, I remain quite skeptical that many people would be so foolish as to condemn the entire healthcare industry — the sole purpose of which is to heal others — as something akin to an impossible fantasy.

Therefore, I come to the conclusion that since wanting something for someone else may indeed be not only possible but also quite likely a positive experience (insofar as that wanting is not egotistical, but an experience which is quite reminiscent of the “golden rule”), leading me to believe that it is indeed quite a good thing to practice.

I plan to return to this topic in a few (or more) days, in order to give some more details about which direction I hope to go with such ideas as this. In the meantime, I also recommend checking out more of Mark’s ideas, which I also wrote about in “the pervasiveness of technology and mass marketing is screwing up a lot of people’s expectations for themselves” and “mental health and self-improvement“.

I want to support others that are also on the same journey, because there are so many people out there that have had current life experiences affect their mental health including the current pandemic

Keywords: our mission

We all need a kick start and support when we can get it, theres nothing better than spreading positivity and supporting others on life journeys too and thats what we are here for.

https://theinfluentialindividual.art.blog/2021/05/02/our-mission

I want to chase success everyday and want to help and guide and support to anyone who’s lost and helpless and weak like my younger self

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I used to be innocent and lost, seeking for right direction. It was like I was aware of my potential, but needed right direction and support. I felt sorry for younger me, for the times there was no one to support, guide and understand my actions. But with time and experiences I’ve learned so much and grown up. I’m happy with this version of myself and will try to improve more.

https://burningsoul994403734.wordpress.com/2021/04/19/my-worth