Keywords: Bereavement , Opinion , Death and dying , Family , Mental health , Health
It suddenly dawned on me that my family did not waste a single minute of their lives; they lived and loved fiercely every single day. I needed to do the same. I went back to my studies at university, curbed my vices and started to live rather than just exist. After all, this is what my family would have wanted for me.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/oct/02/losing-family-tsunami-grief [by Jen McPherson]

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