Keywords: random thoughts , relationships , dating , friend with benefits , love , marriage , partner , relationship , simp
Both men and women are naturally inclined to develop emotional attachments after being intimate and having sex. I feel many women do not express their sexual desires openly, because they don’t want to be seen as a whore. Nevertheless, although I feel most people desire sex, most people generally do not desire to engage in casual sex because they value their feelings; as no one wants to feel used or emotionally attached to someone who doesn’t value them.
I wanted to be in control of my JC and uni years, and so I worked towards that. Sometimes the rationale for control was flawed – to avoid fear and disappointment. I kick people out of my lives faster than they can leave. Controlling the amount of hurt I might potentially feel.
I am always going out of my way to make others happy and feel good and desired, but nobody is ever ever doing the same to me. I’m the only one who cheers me up when I’m down or puts me in a better mood.
Keywords: reflections , anxiety , blog , blogging , communication , growth , listening , relationships
How does one talk about their feelings when their feelings make them want to take a lifelong vow of silence? I got one solution – and that is supportive people. All you really need is a good listener. But this is harder said than done. I’m an absolutely garbage listener, my brain interjects with perspectives and comments every two seconds while someone is speaking. It’s a curse, and it’s taken me a long time to quell my natural anxious mind in favour of patient listening. I’m still on that journey, ladies and gentlemen.
Anyone who knows me personally can tell you I don’t sugar coat things, and I confront issues directly because that’s my nature. When I was younger I came across as harsh and somewhat rude, but during my 20’s I’ve learnt to soften, to empathise and to listen without judgement. I’ve learnt to control my own feelings and allow a safe space for other people to share a different view to mine, and communicate in a healthy way.
Keywords: Social Business , advertising , business , exploitation , marketing , mental health , narcissism , profit , profits , sucker , suckers , there’s a sucker born every minute , victim , victim mentality , victims
I have some hesitation about today’s topic. It’s complicated. And I feel a little bit outside of my “element” or “comfort zone” (ow whatever), which I feel is more logical, mathematical, rational, stuff like that.
This is about something completely different — most of all it’s about squishy wishy-washy stuff like feelings.
But before I start writing a post about my post, let me just dive into it. Perhaps a good starting point is this age-old saying:
Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.
Many people say stuff like this all the time
I have even myself coined a term for this feeling. It goes beyond untrustworthy. I call something distrustworthy which is actually worthy of distrust (Google being a prime example that immediately springs to mind 😉 ).
Now let me get back to the complicated part for a moment.
Fun & games, happiness and all that jazz are important parts of life. We all want to be able to kid and play around a bit.
This is where the feelings come in. I think a big part of the Golden Rule is enjoying spending time here together. if someone is clearly not enjoying themselves, then you’re not doing it in a way that conforms to a “best of all possible worlds” scenario.
Now let me try to nail this thing down so we can consider what it all means.
A while back, I wrote a post about a saying usually attributed to P.T. Barnum (see “There’s a Sucker Born Every Minute” [ https://socio.business.blog/2023/05/15/theres-a-sucker-born-every-minute ]). If your idea of “just fooling around” is a matter of taking advantage of someone, then that someone could reasonably be expected to feel taken advantage of” (which is, as far as I know, always — or at least almost always — not a nice feeling to experience).
I think this is then a situation which is in violation of the Golden Rule.
What makes this difficult is that it’s about feelings. A little kid may very well feel perfectly on top of the world and the kid’s parents may be more than happy to pay manyfold the value of whatever it is the kid gets out of it, but if the kid or the parents feels they’re being duped or suckered or played (or whatever). then what might have been the basis for a trustworthy relationship suddenly transforms into something completely different — namely: the basis for a distrustworthy relationship.
Keywords: corona-virus , covid-19 , family , health care , writing , bloganuary , covid , pandemic , polio , toy
I don’t remember the next several months other than visits through the window and people in white, wearing masks, doing things to me. There were periods in a whirlpool tub where a nurse held me while the water moved around me and someone else moved my legs. There was another room where we went to do more exercises, and someone else moved my scrawny legs.
I’m so hard on myself. Maybe that’s my biggest issue. I only point out all that I and others lack. What could be better. Instead of appreciating what is already. I love myself. I love you. I love how you are always trying to make me feel good. Taking care of my every need. Protecting me from me. Nourishing me body and soul.
I want to fall hopelessly and relentlessly in love with someone and I want them to feel the same about me. Sometimes I think that maybe I deserve to be this lonely all the time because I did some horrible awful in a past life or even in this one. I don’t know! I know that I have wanted nothing but to feel loved in this life and so far I haven’t felt it. People always say but you have your kids. That isn’t the same. I want someone to touch me and have it feel like they never want to let me go. I want someone to look at me like I am the reason the sun shines and I can look at them with that same feeling. I want to be held and kept safe. I want someone to do random romantic cheesey things for me without me having to tell the. Lastly I want someone to take care of my heart like it’s a most precious thing in the world to them.
Wants 