When neither of your parents, or anyone in your family has ever really been needy around each other, it doesn’t really set the precedent for you to be open, vulnerable, needy or fragile emotionally

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Strength is praised, weaknesses cause irritation and rectification. Flaws are not to be accommodated, only fixed.

https://mattwilliamsonlive.wordpress.com/2021/06/07/reflections-2

There are so many things I want to let out

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I have a lot of things that I deal with, as I am sure many of you do. So I would like to write about things that people can relate to. Even if the things I write aren’t 100% something you understand, I know we can all understand feelings. Situations may not be the exact same, but the emotions can be.

https://psychofreba.com/2021/03/18/why-am-i-blogging

I work my ass off every day to get a little closer to where I want to be

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I don’t need validation to continue this journey, but it would be so nice. It would just be the sweetest thing to hear from someone else. I scream it at myself every day. I say, “Rudy, you’re doing so much better. You can pretend it’s a secret and get through this. You’re good enough.” I, however, am not a reliable source of emotional information to myself yet. I’m still working on that. Until then, any kind of encouragement is greatly appreciated.

https://victoriacsmith.wordpress.com/2020/12/16/progress-vs-validation

We all want the same thing: simply to be valued by somebody else

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This survival mode explains why I get angry, anxious, or sad when I feel less valued.  The limbic part of my brain worries I may get kicked out of my protective and be lunch.  Right or wrong, just the perception of being devalued activates our ancient, irrational, emotional, and often impulsive response.  We worry we will be lunch.

We All Want the Same Thing | Psychology Today