I want to manage the relationship so I show up as my full and real self, not avoiding pain and trauma but not integrating it into my core self either

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Keywords: Therapist Post , Ann Szalda-Petree , Attachment , Client relationship , Therapy

I need to examine the needs I am getting met through the relationship. I like feeling like I am useful and important. I like when clients feel heard, seen, and unique. I also have to be real. I see 30 people a week, and if I’m somehow communicating something less that that, there’s a good chance I’m getting my own needs to be valued met through my therapeutic relationships and that is unsustainable. I think it starts to hurt me in a way, and when I notice that I need to take a step back and reassess. Frankly, when I allow that to continue, it ultimately hurts the client.
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I want to manage the relationship so I show up as my full and real self, not avoiding pain and trauma but not integrating it into my core self either

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As a teenager and young adult, I wanted to be a writer [but] it became apparent that I did not have the dedication or talent to become a published author

[Stories] have been told through the generations and because they focus on human emotions and failings they are as relevant today as they were thousands of years ago

I want someone who can handle my chaos without trying to shrink it

I was trying to convince myself I was happy, that I was where I wanted to be, where I should be — despite every instinct in my body telling me otherwise