Tag: needs

I want to do all these things but they never seem to come true

Keywords: Life

I’m so hard on myself. Maybe that’s my biggest issue. I only point out all that I and others lack. What could be better. Instead of appreciating what is already. I love myself. I love you. I love how you are always trying to make me feel good. Taking care of my every need. Protecting me from me. Nourishing me body and soul.

https://kambitions.wordpress.com/2021/08/31/confessions-of-a-24-year-old-dreamer

Being in a healthy mindset allows me to be reflexive without the turmoil I’d have experienced before

Keywords: Life in general , Personal Growth

For years I had disconnected myself from my own needs. I had found that ignoring them was a survival strategy, experience had taught me that I was safer that way. This wasn’t a sustainable approach. I’d become so good at hiding and ignoring my needs that I spent years going through life numb to the good experiences I should have been having. All my actions were routed in expectations and obligations. When that got too much for me I turned to food, drink and drugs to fuel actions. It was ok that I needed to spend the day in bed, it was a hangover rather than depression caused by my unhealed trauma. It’s fine that I drank before I went out, that was me being savvy with money as I wouldn’t spend so much at the club. My binge eating was tied to the days when I was suffering malnutrition from before my adoption (I don’t recall that, I think I may have made it up. I recall walking to collect water with a container on my head as part of my chores, but never hunger…) and the list of justified negative behaviour that sustained the numbing of my emotions is endless. This was never sustainable, and that’s a good thing.

https://fifipottier.com/2021/09/05/today-everyday-you-matter-are-important

Store owners beam and put their own face, person, livelihood behind their product, and with that, accountability, ownership, pride

Keywords: What We Are

in a season where isolation and independence have become the norm, even praised and celebrated, i want to lean hard on my place, my people, i want to depend on things to be there for me – the bread shop that opens every day until midnight, the aunty who sells the softest cotton sleepwear every sunday, the uncle who i know will be there, faithfully repairing shoes until he no longer can… in turn, they depend on (us/me), for their livelihood, purpose; and for both of us, we want each other, for the warmth, interaction, companionship.

https://raah.blog/2021/07/05/small-is-beautiful

Loving yourself means respecting and taking care of your own feelings, needs and wants

Keywords: {0}

Growing up, I was raised with the idea that I must put others first before myself. I grew up to be selfless in every aspect because putting myself first felt selfish. So I thought loving myself means giving myself all the love and care that I’ve been giving to others but neglected myself. I walked past one of my favorite dessert stores at the mall a few months ago and it reminded me of the times when my ex and I used to steal each other’s dessert because they were just so good. fun times. I was contemplating if I should get myself one because I think it is really overpriced but I told myself that I should love myself more, so I bought it and felt really happy eating it. I also bought so many clothes and accessories online from the 11/11 sale without thinking about the price because I wanted to love myself more and I felt so happy when I received those goods.

https://zeeetheworld.wordpress.com/2020/12/18/selflove