Tag: marriage

What are the things I want to take with me and what are the things I want to let go of [?]

Keywords: personal , should you care , beginnings , blog , endings , heartbreak , new year

I found myself for the first time rather suprised about the fact that there wasn’t much that I wanted to take with me into the new year. I spent the last few weeks really grieving Mark and Cloud and their absense in my life. While everyone has told me how astonishing my growth has been in the last 2 years I’m only really now beginning to see it for myself.

https://myspecious.wordpress.com/2022/01/03/the-process-endings

I wanted to continue my studies to university level

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I have chosen to study health. My community has a large population and an unending problem of early marriage, which means children are born every day. But there is only one hospital, with 6 wards and few attendants. It’s more like a pharmacy or clinic because only minor injuries can be treated. For most problems, they just prescribe panadol, drips and injections, without finding out what the patient’s problem is.

https://verabridalplanet.design.blog/2021/12/04/girl-child-education

I don’t concern myself with ideas of wanting to be loved as much as I do the thought that I might never be loved

Keywords: essay , friendship , love , self

One of my favourite parts of my day is cooking dinner just for myself. The other day, as I was walking to my local shop, and I had to position my umbrella in a certain way so that the couple walking towards me, who were sharing an umbrella, didn’t crash into me. I remember thinking that it would make a really good scene in a Fleabag-esque show, where the protagonist is single and unlucky in love and everyone else manages to get into relationships and make joint dinners and split the tasks. They are probably looking at a list they wrote together and saying, “you get the potatoes, I’ll get the butter.” Whereas, there I am, staring at sushi and debating if it’s going to be a sweet or savory bagel week. Then it hits me that this is my life, and that being single for my twenties isn’t just some hypothetical possibility, but is a real version of reality that I live in. It’s gone past the point of randomly sending my friends texts that say ‘will I ever be lovable?’ and has simply become my state of being. The self pitying is slowly evaporating and I’ll sternly tell myself ‘you are living it. This is it. It’s lovely and it’s also sometimes hard. By the way you’re going to crash into that couple coming towards you if you don’t move your umbrella’. Sometimes, I reminisce on the times where I’ve acted like a pretend girlfriend for a week maximum, and then I’ll make a joke to myself that it’s a bit like when people go on those intensive courses where you learn how to drive in seven days and then pass your test. I keep failing my test. Only metaphorically, obviously, I can’t drive because I always live in big cities with public transport and none of my shoes are sensible. Some couples make me believe that love is real, and acknowledge that it isn’t just a pretend feeling people curate so they can tick off ‘get married’ in their mental to-do list. Other times I’ll see a man in a peacoat and a scarf talk down to his partner and tell her that her friends are all too dramatic and hysterical. Then I consider myself one of the lucky ones. There you have it, another contradiction. Love is both real and not real, it’s a jackpot to know what you’re getting yourself into. I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than have a man in a sensible coat think he can patronise me in the street, and I mean that truly.

https://elliciaroxanne.wordpress.com/2021/11/12/contradictions

I want people to see me as a mature adult

Keywords: FAMILY , GIRLS , KIDS , LIFE , LOVE , PATH , RELATIONSHIP , SINGLE , SOCIAL , TAKEN

I guess what this all boils down to is that you have to remind yourself that everyone has a path in life and each one is different. Remind yourself that wherever you are in your life right now is okay. The choices you make determine your path whether they be bad or good. Do not try to follow others pave your own way and keep pushing for what you want out of your life.

https://highmaintenancemadison.wordpress.com/2021/01/04/girls-like-me

I want my life to be remembered for some good in a time where we were uncertain in the direction of our future

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I stay sometimes where I am convinced I am not wanted because in the same sense I am convinced that I am needed. I do feel taken advantage of but I wonder what women hasn’t been. Gone or the days of a clear male and female tasks. The desire to be with my son full time and take direct ownership and responsibility of how he turns out is a weight that some have to take on in addition to trying to put food on the table. I think marriage was designed to protect us for sacrificing our working potential in order to provide the necessary building blocks of life to our offspring. I think our children began to take a back burner when the western world started to brainwash us into believing that what you had at home was peanuts and the rest of the world was a deluxe nut mix complete with pistachios. We have barely broken the land and we stopped working together as a family to achieve success. We turned in jobs of hard harbor to office jobs pushing pencils and shredding paper. Where once all the hard work went right back into the family now investing in the career threatens to bankrupt the family as a whole.

https://rubyohsosweet.com/2020/10/24/for-better-or-worse-2