Tag: parenting

I wanted so desperately for my kids to be safe and happy, that I oftentimes didn’t allow them to fall and pick themselves back up

Keywords: motherhood , boundaries , children , family , kids , parenthood , raising children , respect

Expectations- we all have dreams for our kids but those dreams should never interfere with what our kids actually want. Encouragement is necessary and beneficial but expectation is toxic and dangerous. We should not be “living through” our kids, we should be sharing the experiences and life they choose. Expecting our kids to have a particular education, a certain job, earn a certain amount of money, be a particular sexual orientation or live a life you deem worthy is not unconditional love. Being embarrassed or ashamed of our kids if they are struggling in life, is more a reflection on our own lack than it is on our kids. I want to know my kids struggles so I can support them and we can work together for the healthiest outcome. My kids know there is nothing they cannot tell me, I will never judge them. If you can’t accept that your child will be their own person, suffer struggles and make mistakes or choose a lifestyle that makes them happy, rather then fitting into your mould- perhaps parenthood is not for you.

https://spiritual-queen.com/2022/08/21/motherhood-what-does-it-mean

This is where I want to be

Keywords: Homemaking , Mamahood

Theo did not like it at first. The coffee grinder is loud and frightening to him, unless Mama holds him. He does not want to be on the floor while Mama tends to the electric kettle, which is far too interesting for him to not watch up close himself. What’s more, the coffee grounds smell so good, and look like dirt. He wants to feel that for himself too, and he loves to grab the spoon Mama uses to remove the grounds from the grinder, spilling them on the counter. Mama sighs, but Theo finds it so enthralling.

https://morningmercies4.wordpress.com/2024/02/07/slow-coffee

I wanted to continue my studies to university level

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I have chosen to study health. My community has a large population and an unending problem of early marriage, which means children are born every day. But there is only one hospital, with 6 wards and few attendants. It’s more like a pharmacy or clinic because only minor injuries can be treated. For most problems, they just prescribe panadol, drips and injections, without finding out what the patient’s problem is.

https://verabridalplanet.design.blog/2021/12/04/girl-child-education

I wanted to do everything not to pass this on to them

Keywords: childcare

I wanted them to love their own bodies and appreciate all the beauty in others. I’m talking about their bodies not just for what they look like, but for what they can do. I am not telling them that they cannot wear certain clothes even if they are not flattering. Because I’ve read all the stuff that says it’s not what we say as mothers but what we do, I also vowed never to denigrate my body in front of them, not even mics – assaults like mumbling an outfit makes me look fat, or that I “really shouldn’t be eating anything”.

https://childcareblogcom.wordpress.com/2021/11/12/how-to-help-your-kids-love-their-bodies-flippy-floppy-arms-and-all

Being the show off that I am I wanted to prove I can do it

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As a single mother, providing for her family on her own, working 40+ hours a week and taking care of my house that I purchased last year, I wanted to show every other single parent out there that it is possible. I chose this blogging service because it was simple and had tons of tutorials along the way. I can’t wait to post more about myself throughout the semester and get to know my classmates as well!

https://singlemomgoestocollege.wordpress.com

My feelings of overwhelm often stem from internal pressures that I’ve put on myself

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I want to have activities planned for my kids every day. I have a hard time just letting them be bored (because then the whining ensues.) I want to limit screen time and make sure they spend enough time outside. Other things on my to-do list include reading Bible stories and to them and keeping the house clean throughout the day. I want to be productive and check things off my to-do list so that I feel like I’m doing enough. Then I have things I can point to and say “look what I got done today.”

https://amindsetongod.wordpress.com/2021/09/26/motherhood-too-much-and-not-enough