Store owners beam and put their own face, person, livelihood behind their product, and with that, accountability, ownership, pride

Keywords: What We Are

in a season where isolation and independence have become the norm, even praised and celebrated, i want to lean hard on my place, my people, i want to depend on things to be there for me – the bread shop that opens every day until midnight, the aunty who sells the softest cotton sleepwear every sunday, the uncle who i know will be there, faithfully repairing shoes until he no longer can… in turn, they depend on (us/me), for their livelihood, purpose; and for both of us, we want each other, for the warmth, interaction, companionship.

https://raah.blog/2021/07/05/small-is-beautiful

I want is from “myself” and I expect is from “others”

Keywords: expectations , love , relationships

Just take a different approach here to maintain the relationship – for example: We love each other so deeply, there is no doubt – no trust issues and I still wait for his message or call, I still want him to see my all status and respond BUT now by replacing my thought process I just want THIS to happen and I stopped expecting this. Expectation means – other person has to do this else it will hurt us. And Want is mine own – other person is not responsible for this. The time we realize that its not the other person who is hurting us, its us/our feelings which is the cause of all this. Our mind became more relaxed and then we start appreciating whatever little or big things/gestures other person is doing/showing for us. We start value them more than before. Now, its only love, love and only love…

https://dilkigehrayionse.wordpress.com/2021/06/09/expectations

I’m not tied to the outcome or the agenda

Keywords: cathy noice

I have found in coaching that reflection on your own thoughts is one of the most powerful tools of coaching. Knowing that someone isn’t trying to sway, influence or manipulate you helps you feel safe and reflect on what you really want. This happens through active listening. If I’m trying to push a rope, I’m wrapped up in my own agenda. When I am actively listening, I am making a safe space for someone to reflect.

https://workplacenavigator.com/2021/04/23/you-cant-push-a-rope-2